I am a Carlsbad therapist who provides dating coaching. It can be rough being out there in the dating pool. Whether you're just now trying online dating, getting set up by friends, had a workplace dating disaster, or are going to bars and singles' events, finding love isn't always an easy process. There are often lots of misses, before you hit the right one for you. It can feel discouraging and frustrating. Sometimes, you may even start to think dating is hopeless. As a dating coach, I can help you answer the following questions:

How do you find the right person?

How do you approach a new relationship?

What stuff should you avoid while dating?

What should you disclose in an online profile or electronic communication?

Does your profile or public image need some help?

How do you weed out unstable people who will waste your time or take advantage of you?

You may even sometimes wonder, "Am I doing something wrong?"

There's a knack to dating and relationship searching. It takes skill. It takes patience. It requires a great deal of self-esteem, and a lot of thought. You have to learn to be smart about it. Your heart is an excellent guide. At the same time, you have a brain in your head for a very good reason.

Sometimes, there's stuff in your past that gets in the way of choosing a healthy partner. Sometimes, you need to work on yourself, first. Sometimes, you self-sabotage because deep down you don't believe you deserve love and connection, or you're afraid of being hurt in a relationship, again. Sometimes you sell yourself way short. You need to stop doing that.

In my practice, I've spent many hours helping the lovelorn. It's one of my favorite parts of counseling. I love watching clients find their happily ever after. I've accompanied many clients on their journey to finding love. I provide an excellent shoulder to cry on for the dating disasters, and a major cheering section for the triumphs. I can also stay grounded and help you think and feel it through, when you're not sure which is which. Dating can be a lot of fun, with the right support.

Happily ever after requires thought and work. It doesn't just happen, automatically, for most people. Choosing real romantic happiness requires understanding and honing your decision making process. You need to know yourself well, and you need to know what you're really looking for in a partner.

The relationship you choose, and the way you begin and sustain it, will play a major role in your ability to achieve happiness.

If you want to have a family, your relationship will also play a big part in how happy and secure your children will be. That solid foundation of love helps them be confident and successful.

It can take years to recover from an unwise romantic choice.

I can help. I learned to be really good at this dating stuff. You can be, too.  I've been out there in the dating pool. I understand the heartaches and weirdness it can involve. I understand how hard it can be. I've found my happiness. I'd like to help you find yours.

I will make it my mission to always have your best interests at heart. I promise not to judge you, no matter how confused or messed up you may think you are. We've all been there! If you've recently broken up, or have been searching for a while, and you'd like some help and a person to bounce ideas off of, get in touch.